Sunday, February 28, 2010

The Confirmation and Inferiority Complex

Lost in my own thoughts, I stumbled upon two terms I had learned Freshman year for a psychoanalysis paper on Orson Scott Card's Ender's Game.  This was when I thought Sigmund Freud and everything he wrote was really cool.  Anyways, the two terms are Confirmation Complex and Inferiority Complex.  I ended up googling the terms because I couldn't remember why they are bivalent and what the nuanced differences between them were.

Quite conveniently, I found the same website that I read about five years ago in 9th grade (Confirmation and Inferiority Complex website).
  • The confirmation complex has the emotional dynamic of jealousy (self-pity mode). It arises from the experience of insufficient love as a child ; it is a psychological need.
  • The inferiority complex has the emotional dynamic of narcissism (vanity mode). It arises from the experience of denigration as a child ; it is an existential need.
  • The confirmation complex and the inferiority complex are binary needs. This relationship ensues because jealousy (self-pity mode) and narcissism (vanity mode) are binary emotions.
Your views about yourself can belittle you, and the criticisms of other people can also belittle you. This can make you dislike someone. The decisive test for separating the two needs is what person is your dislike directed to. Who do you dislike ?
If you dislike yourself, then this implies the inferiority complex is dominant at that moment.
If you dislike the other person, then the need for social approval is uppermost at that moment (if it were not uppermost, then what that person said to us would not bother us).

Saturday, February 27, 2010

The Biggest Impressions

Here's some more of Jules with his straighten (and less straightened) hair.  The rest of this post has nothing to do with the pictures (as has been the case recently).

It seems to me that a person can have everything going for himself and receive many positive complements throughout the day.  But it always seems to be the one negative comment that overshadows the hundreds of positive ones.  No matter what happened, this is the one that always stays on your mind and, for whatever reasons, always seems to outweigh everything else.

It is sort of interesting to think about.  If you want someone to never forget you; if you want to make a big and lasting impression, you really only need to deliver one seemingly genuine (if not actually genuine) negative comment that the recipient will take in a serious manner.  Reasonably, these people are often not your friends.  This brings me to a quote from Spider Man from when my brother and I use to watch Saturday morning cartoons:  Keep your friends close, but your enemies closer.

I've never really taken the time to think over this quite myself or to see what other people had to say about it.  I think very highly of my brother (and he is most certainly the smarter brother).  So when he told me what he believed it meant, I took it straight to heart.  He interpreted it to mean that your friends will lie to you, essentially making everything seem flowery and pleasant, while it is your enemies that will tell you the truths about yourself that you do not want to hear.  And in this sense, it is important to have people who are not afraid to tell you things as they are to your face.  And when one has a friend that will do this, that is most certainly a valuable friend.

Thanks for reading,

Friday, February 26, 2010

1 for 5

Went to the ceramics room today to throw.  Cut up a log of clay into 5 pieces.  Only left with one piece to leave to dry on the shelves...

Thursday, February 25, 2010


So I've spent a good number of hours in Boliou's ceramics room this term.  I don't have a class or anything, just kind of randomly picked it up.  Anyways, I finished throwing, trimming, and glazing my first 4 ...clay-things...  I'm still pretty awful at all three steps, but I'm excited to wee what they look like after the high fire :)

Wednesday, February 24, 2010

CUT Puppies

Found them at the Las Vegas Air Port.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010


...just some more rocks... :)

Monday, February 22, 2010

Suns out Guns out, amirite?

... except for Kinsey...

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Still More Red Rocks, Nevada

I still have a lot of pictures from Nevada to share... I'm getting a little bored of them myself too though...

On another note, I've been getting into ceramics/pottery/throwing pots.  Just a fun, enjoyable past time right now for me I suppose.  I have yet to have anything fired, but my throwing is starting to get decent.  I still rely on luck a lot though...  so yeah, still a novice.

Saturday, February 20, 2010


Daniel Curme Class of 2010

Friday, February 19, 2010

The best part of falling down... that you get the opportunity to stand back up.

Here's another cheesy quote: Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

February 18, 2010

It seems to be like this every term.  There's always something I want to do, and I try to do it, but around this time of the term, I always feel like I'm running out of time.  I suppose thats better than feeling like this term is never going to end.  At least it means I'm having a good time and a good term.  But wow.  Winter term is coming to an end.  Then the dreaded drive down to Texas, then the drive back up, then some more school, Ultimate series, either tears of joy or tears of sadness, and then 2 weeks without frisbee.  14 weeks left of sophomore year.  Sounds like quite a bit...  doesn't feel like much though.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

These Pics were not Color-Enhanced

The color of these rocks were just this vibrant.  The color was not enhanced/the saturation was not booted.  Its almost not that cool since anything can be edited to look like this... hmm...

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

hai-lights Presents: CUT '10 Captains

Sam Kanner
Grant Lindsley

Monday, February 15, 2010

Adding more Hai to hai-lights. Again.

Hope your not disappointed with these.  Or if you laughing at me for saying that, I think you judged me from last time's hai in hai-lgihts :p (which I told you not to do).

Top two pictures taken by Ben Sullender (and I am in those pics if you look closely.)  Last pic taken by Tam Bui and original edits by Tam Bui as well.

Sunday, February 14, 2010


If you happen to read all my posts for whatever reason (and I love you dearly for doing so), I proposed that the happiest people in life are the people who can always put on a smile in the worst situations.  And idk if I've mentioned this before, but I also remember thinking about some of the greatest heroes in life are those who are never heard of because they bear all the burdens alone, too selfless to share it with others.

These two ponderings have been in my mind lately.  And I figure at the end of the day, if there's a smile on my face, I've figured out something about life.

Saturday, February 13, 2010


After yesterday, I think there is a lot to be said about novelty.  The excitement and sense of exploration makes up for so much.  Even if the end is rather anti-climatic, as someone once told me, you've been excited for the whole time prior, and upon reflection, you've been happy and entertained for that much longer.

Anyways, here are some plant pictures from Nevada.  And for the record, the cacti really are that pink (and not overly saturated).